Self-Love is the Best Love

As we approach Valentine’s Day, I felt called to write about self-love—the kind of love where you accept yourself as you are, the kind of love where you make good choices for your overall well being, and the kind of love that generously gives back to you in magical and mysterious ways.

As you read, put one hand over your heart and be open to receiving, receiving these words in addition to receiving whatever the universe has in store for you. Right now you are choosing you, and when you “love yourself first and everything else falls in line. You really have to love yourself to get anything done in this world.” That’s a Lucille Ball quote, and everyone loves Lucy!

Let’s start with acknowledging and celebrating yourself.

Use these prompts to encourage you:

I’m proud of…

I’m great at…

I’m awesome because…

I love my…

I am…

Self-love is worthy—and at times challenging—work! After all, it’s quite common to be self-critical and let harsh thoughts dictate how you feel about yourself. So, I want you to take a moment to think of an aspect of yourself that you pick on; maybe it’s physical or maybe it’s mental. What is it and why do you loathe it? Take a moment to dig deep here and be honest with yourself…

Now, if your hand is still at your heart’s center, move it to that place where you are especially critical of yourself, and allow the following prompts to guide you:

Offer that place some extra tender loving care and energy through your touch.

Flip the script and tell yourself what you appreciate about that aspect of your mind or body.

Be kind in your acknowledgment of what that part of your body does for you on a regular basis.

You are choosing to put the breaks on your inner critic and choose self-love. You are choosing to stop giving your time, energy and emotions to negative self-talk and instead give yourself the pep talk so the light and magic that is you shines brighter. That is called flipping the narrative.

To fuel self-love, it’s important to show yourself kindness—not just through words but through actions too. So, it’s time to grab a piece of paper and pen or open the notes page on your phone and jot down 5 kind things you can do for yourself today, tonight, or tomorrow. The action of doing can be active or passive; in that it can be to do something (like food prep) or to choose to not do something (take a midday nap).

When you love yourself, you care for yourself in beautiful ways. Think about a person, a pet, or a thing you just adore; how do you care for it, how much do you love it? You can treat yourself the same way.

When the power of self-love flows through you, you feel it, you use it, and it produces an overflow in which you are able to give to and share with others. So, go and fill up your cup until it runneth over.

Self-love is the path to knowing yourself and for serving others without feeling depleted or resentful; again, you are giving your overflow. If you’d like to focus on loving yourself more than you do, here is a link to my Self Love Sesh offering. It’s a workshop in which you will learn authentic, true-to-you practices of self love that will ensure your daily clarity, compassion and contentment. You’ll leave with loving practices to incorporate into your intentional daily living.


This article was written and contributed by:

Lisa Desberg

Self Love Coach at The Magnifying Class \ @themagnifyingclass

Lisa is a Self Love Coach, a Manifestation Guide, and a Reiki Master Teacher. As a Self Love Coach, she helps you to overcome self-limiting behaviors and habits through self care and self love strategies—ones that are accessible and authentic and can be easily integrated into daily living.

As a Manifestation Guide, Lisa supports you in tapping into your desires and attracting ways you want to feel and things you want to have. What you want is already yours. As a Reiki Master Teacher, she guides you on your journey to become healer, and we know the world needs more healers. In level 1, you learn the history, the chakras, and the techniques to self Reiki and Reiki loved ones—even pets. In level 2, you become a practitioner. In level 3a, you become a Master, and in level 3b, you become a Master Teacher.

Lisa finds joy in a morning cappuccino, a full day of teaching high schoolers, an afternoon meditation, and a night time dinner around the kitchen table with family. She weaves her favorite self care and self love practices into her everyday life, and her current favorites are breathwork, hydration, nourishment, celebration, movement, and journaling.


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